No matter how you prefer to flirt or how you are flirting, be it over text, through social media, or in-person, it is very important to keep a balance between what you are revealing and how you are keeping the person intrigued.
Flirting, at its most basic, is playfully showing you are romantically attracted to someone. If you are up to flirt with someone, you must already know that you are sexually attracted to that person— or in short, you like him/her. It might seem nerve-wracking to start flirting and put yourself out there, but fear not—it’s normal to be nervous around someone you really like, and there are ways to seem confident and pull off a successful flirtation.
If you want to know how to flirt flawlessly, this article will definitely help you by giving you some general advice.
#1. Make Proper Eye Contact.
Eye contact is the easiest and effortless thing you could do to start flirting. Try to look deep into the person’s eyes while you are taking. Make sure you break the eye contact at the right time before things get too intense or the person misunderstands you for being mean and desperate.
Consider using it in these ways: Get caught looking. Don’t stare, but do throw small glances at someone. Keep doing it until he or she catches you. Hold the gaze for a second, smile, and look away.
Look into his or her eyes when you talk, particularly at meaningful points in the conversation (for example, while you’re paying a compliment).
A smile is a pleasant gesture and there is nothing wrong with smiling. You’ll probably smile automatically if you’re talking to someone you like, but you can use your pearly whites to your advantage before the conversation even starts. You can even smile at the person when you pass him or her by in the halls, or just from across the room. You don’t have to grin from ear to ear, either; just a simple, subtle smile will do the trick.
#3. Start Talking.
Introduce yourself — or maintain the mystery (optional). If you don’t already know the person you’re flirting with, an introduction (or lack of one) can be a great thing to build flirting around. Avoid the urge to have a cheesy pick-up line. It can be as simple as, “Hi, I’m [name]. And you are…?”
Initiate a conversation. Whether you already know the other person or not, a conversation is the best way to move the flirtation forward. The person you’re flirting with will be impressed by your boldness and confidence.
#4. Keep Things Light In The Begining.
Don’t bring up anything too personal when you’re talking. Talk about the environment around you, the show you just saw, etc. Keep personal information (such as religion, money, relationships, education, and so on) out of it, unless the person enjoys intellectual debates without becoming over-emotional. Generally, it’s best to avoid debating topics personally relevant to either of you (such as either yours or their religion) and to rather discuss topics you both don’t have a personal stake in.
#5. Break The Touch Barrier.
This one is the most important and the toughest part of the story. The first few times you touch your crush, be careful not to “trap” him or her. Depending on the area, the contact should be long enough to be more than accidental, but no more. Avoid grasping a hand or arm, and instead, try gestures such as brushing an imaginary speck of dirt off of their arm, or “accidentally” touching feet or knees without pulling away.