No one can justify cheating on their spouse even we are not here to support those who have inflicted their partner with a terrible time. You just simply can’t understand the intention of cheating; I mean I know there are a lot of alluring and tempting things that can certainly mess things up in your head. However, we all know how this cheating game ends. It ends in resentment and constant self-loathing.
But believe us, if you have someone in your life who loves you with all her heart at giving it up all away for a little lack of excitement in the relationship which might go away in the imminent future, then you’re a five-year-old child who can’t control his bladder and just pees in his pants. In simpler words, you are not mature enough to be in a serious relationship with a compassionate and loyal person who has made so many sacrifices for you.
If your relationship isn’t working out, there is always the easy way to analyze it; you can have a deep and intense talk or you can simply break up with him/her. I mean why cheating? Why it exists? There is no alibi for this heinous social crime that hurts everyone involved.
Anyway, we have 5 main reasons why some men end up cheating.
You will also find some good guys in there, caught up in bad habits and you need to keep in mind that no matter what the circumstances which lead to such situations, in the end, we are responsible for what we end up doing.
#1. Womanizers and Fallen Saints.
In order to understand this, you need to let go of the concept that, ‘there’s always good in people.’ Sure there is, but believing in such things will end up with you as bait to these con artists who will do anything they have to do to get you. They are quite similar to sociopaths and they are so adept at their craft that they will have certain moves planned beforehand to make a fool out of you. They have done this so many times to a lot of women that they will have no remorse or feeling of regret in moving from woman to woman and ruining lives.
On occasions, there’s that guy who has been good all his life but he wants to try something new because he is tired of doing everything right. That is a different case and if he atones for his sins, then he deserves a chance. What he did is absolutely wrong but this scenario is a lot more different than some womanizers.
#2. The Insecure Bunch.
People have small fragile insecurities which make them brittle. They can actually wreak at any point in their relationship. People push others away just because they think that they are not good enough for someone. They think that if they came close to that person, it will only end in heartache. So instead of committing, they are caught up in a dilemma and make silly mistakes.
They think if they open up and tell all of their dirty little secrets and an agonizing past, it will only drive you away. They cheat with someone at work who has been showing them some sort of affection. Unfortunately, these things happen and our tainted past has a lot to do with this. Self-hatred makes us do horrible things and you need to remember the possibility in your head that there is someone out there who will never leave you and leave the pieces of your heart all scattered on the floor.
#3. They Don’t Realize The Worth Of What They Have.
Sometimes we do more than what our mate deserves and this really creates the mess. Some men don’t realize that this kind of love could be eternal and a lot more valuable than hooking up with a hot blonde in the office for a single night. She might not even be looking for something serious and you end up losing the one thing that is head over heels in love with you.
I mean why sacrifice the elixir of youth for the taste of a temporary luxury? It’s ineffable!
#4. Fragile Creatures.
Men are actually mentally weak and all that muscular morphology cannot conceal that inner softness and delicacy. They are more prone to make a mistake than women. Women are more dedicated to the relationship than men. Women cheat too but the percentage is much smaller as compared to men.
#5. Lacking The Courage To Be Upfront.
Sometimes, guys are insecure about that they’ll end up hurting one person they have shared a lot with if they tell them that they don’t feel the same way as they used to feel. For me, this is plain stupid. If you both are not comfortable enough to communicate swiftly, why you both are in a relationship? It is actually you are filled with cowardice and dishonesty.
Guys make up all of these excuses in their heads and form justifications to keep their hearts at peace but it’s all a bunch of cockamamie.
Sidenote: If you are in a relationship and you don’t feel the same as you both were yesterday- talk, if you have some query or confusion- talk, if you suspect something or feel like something is cooking- talk, if you are changed, you don’t want to be in the same relationship, just talk. Talk, talk, and talk. I repeat once again, THERE IS NO REASON TO CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE, just talk and explain what you feel for your relationship and things will definitely sort out by itself.