When Flo comes to town, the idea of popping a couple of Midol, throwing on sweats, and binge-watching Netflix might be the only thing that really gets you going. But for others, the perfect night is spent spooning—and more—with baes other than Ben and Jerry.
And since every romp sesh doesn’t go down like that 50 Shades of Grey scene (read: your man doesn’t volunteer to pull out your tampon for you), we called on real women to reveal the details of their bleeding love…making.
Here, they share what period sex is really like outside a raunchy chapter in an E.L. James book—and why a towel is actually a girl’s best friend.
“I’m usually much hornier on my period than any other time. I’m on the pill, so if I do have sex on my period it’s at the end when the blood is almost done. Sometimes my husband wants to have sex when there is more blood, but I know he’ll get grossed out. So we usually refrain.” —Jane S., 28
“Periods suck in general. And having sex while I’m on mine isn’t much better. I hate running the risk of staining my comforter (it’s expensive!) and having to deal with guys who, generally, run away after hearing that I’m on my period.” —Rachael T., 27
“My fiancé and I don’t mind period sex. We just don’t talk about it. But it’s very enjoyable. As gross as it may seem, you’re already lubricated and the orgasms help with the cramps and discomfort of the entire situation. We just put a towel down and jump in the shower after or even during!” —Jennifer C., 32
“I wouldn’t say that I like period sex more than regular sex, but my boyfriend and I love that I’m so much wetter than I usually am. That extra lubrication makes me more open to other positions that I don’t normally prefer. I don’t really feel my sexist on my period, mostly because of bloating (and all the chocolate I eat), but my boobs are definitely bigger and I’ll take that any way that I can. I put down a towel, mostly because I’m lazy and don’t want to do more laundry than I have to. But at the end of the day, it’s sex with the guy I love. So, regardless, I’m always team period sex. If only for the laughs!” —Kate C., 23
“The sex is the only awesome thing about having my period (besides not being pregnant, obviously). I’m in the mood 24/7, I’m wetter than usual, and my boobs stay perky the entire time. Our period sex is more random and spontaneous and hot. Besides putting a towel under me (if I’m on my back), I don’t do anything different. The clean-up is never anything we worry about and, usually, my husband is too relaxed to say anything.” —Alex B., 26
“Period sex is amazing! I love period sex. I never actually participated in it until dating my current boyfriend because, quite frankly, I thought it was gross and it felt the same. Well, let me tell you, the times have changed. I feel like I’m more sensitive during that time of the month, which makes everyone happier. Then almost every single time afterward, my period gets lighter or practically nonexistent. I take it as a way of my body thanking me. Great sex + a light period = one happy girl.” —Nicole A., 25