You can’t cheat on your partner and say this happened randomly. Cheating never happens by itself, your conscience allows you to get in there. No one likes to even think that their partner is seeing or sleeping with someone else. No one would like to deal with the heartbreak that comes as repercussion as being cheated in a relationship. Unfortunately, these things happen.
“Cheating is never to do with how attractive you are.” – Marie Helvin
Hopefully, your relationship is one where open and honest communication comes before the possibility of your partner seeking an extramarital affair.
But if that isn’t the case, there are plenty of ways to tell whether or not your partner is sleeping with someone else. Of course, context is key. Some of these signs, by themselves, don’t mean your partner is cheating. You need to look at the bigger picture, the pattern of behavior, and see if it’s out of the norm.
We have compiled some basic signs that a cheating partner shows. Have a look and find out how perfect your relationship is.
#1. They Guard Their Phone Like A Treasure.
Your partner suddenly became very protective of his/her phone? If you notice a change in phone habits — like suddenly on silent all the time”, it could be a sign that there’s something on there that they don’t want you to see, says author Marina Sbrochi.
You’ve probably had no issue using your partner’s phone for something in the past – but now, they seem to be extremely protective, even going so far as to put a lock on it that prevents you from opening it.
#2. Coming Home Late From Work (And It Is Becoming Too Often).
If your partner is usually home by a certain time every day, but suddenly they’re staying late at work, it could be an excuse for them to see someone else behind your back. It’s a common enough excuse that many people don’t think too much about.
Dating and relationship advice and etiquette expert, April Masini says, “When someone stops coming home at the regular time, on a regular basis, be wary. When a schedule changes and there’s no comment about why or what he or she is doing differently, it may be because your spouse is cheating on you.”
#3. Getting Into The Shower As Soon As They Reach Home.
Unless your partner does a job like construction, roofing, or something else that’s bound to get them dirty, taking a shower as soon as they get off work can be a sign that they’re trying to wash away the evidence of another person. They might want to scrub away some errant lipstick, or a hint of cologne or perfume. This is a sign, especially if their showering habits are changing suddenly.
#4. Low Sex Drive.
People’s sex drives often fluctuate due to stress, nutrition, lack of exercise, or any other reason. A fluctuating sex drive isn’t a sign in and of itself. But, if your sex life has always been pretty regular, and they start no longer desiring your attention, it may be because they’re getting their needs met elsewhere. But why?
Psychotherapist and author Tina B. Tessina, PhD., says, “Most women cheat because they feel emotionally deprived, and men are unfaithful because they often feel sexually deprived.”
#5. They Are Mentally Absent While Lovemaking.
Now, perhaps your partner is still having sex with you – but maybe they’re not having the same type of sex. If your sex has gone from exciting and enjoyable to a few minutes under the covers with the lights off, it may be a sign that your partner is simply trying to placate you, while having their enjoyable sex elsewhere.
#6. They Suddenly Started Paying More Attention To Their Physical Appearance.
This sign doesn’t always mean that they’re sleeping with someone else – especially if they’ve already discussed with you wanting to change their appearance. However, if your partner goes from not caring much about how they look, to suddenly preening like a peacock, they may be trying to impress someone else.
Masini adds, “If your partner starts suddenly looking a lot better than he or she used to, they may be cheating.” If you’re not sure that the person they’re trying to impress is you, this can point to a sign of your partner stepping out.